It’s hard to make new friends at any age, but it seems to get harder as we get older. When you move to a new city, it’s always hard to find your new friend, and a new school can make it even harder and scarier.
Here is some advice about how to meet new people after a big move.
Teenagers are very insecure, so help your daughter feel better about herself. They try to fit in by buying the coolest clothes and shoes, going on crash diets to change their bodies, or just spending too much time trying to be someone else. Own the fact that you’re a nerd. If you knit, keep at it.
Love and be friends with yourself. People will be drawn to you because of how real you are. Putting on a false face won’t help you meet new people.
Before your daughter goes into a new situation, remind her that she is great the way she is and doesn’t need to change just because her friends want her to.
Most of the best things about a person are the things that make them unique, so teach her to value those things. But don’t worry if things don’t change right away. Worrying or trying too hard won’t help. If you stay true to yourself, you’ll find your group in time.
Try something new
When someone is in a new situation, the first thing they want to do is run away and hide. Andrea, on the other hand, tells them to talk to everyone in the classrooms and hallways.
Get yourself ready to talk to people. It could be easy. Like, “Hey, what’s the geography homework?” or “Wow, you did great in that play,” etc.
Say hello to your classmates, especially after school, and you might even get an invite to hang out with them. Putting yourself out there is also good advice for adults as well as teens. Everyone goes through changes in their lives, so the sooner you get used to them, the better.
Join a team or club
Choose one based on what you like. If you join a club, you’ll meet people with whom you already have something in common and with whom you can work toward a common goal. This is how you’ll find your group.
For example, if you join the volleyball team, you’ll see the same girls at practices, matches, and team-building events. With all those group activities, you’re bound to make new friends. Andrea, who liked to dance, joined the cheerleading team.
After making that connection, she made friends very quickly, and some of them are still close friends with her today, so her advice has been tried and tested. But if your school doesn’t have a club you’d like to join, talk to your teachers about starting one. Teens who like the same things you do might be eager to join.